Courage and responsibility go together. Like potato and gravy. Like Laurel and Hardy. Like Fred and Ginger. They just belong together in life. You cannot take responsibility for someone, something or a situation without the strength to do it. Responsibility takes courage. You cannot take responsibility for yourself without a massive dose of courage and strength. The positive upshot is once you embrace responsibility strength, courage and endurance is easy to gather to keep perpetuating that self-responsibility.
It is interesting that we love taking responsibility for everyone else’s life, for immaterial items and even for situations which really have nothing to do with us. Children are willing to wear the emotional responsibility of decisions their parents made. Some adults, not all unconsciously and sometimes consciously push their responsibilities onto their children.
I have learned that people happily without thought or consequence take it upon themselves to accept responsibility for another person without accepting responsibility for them self. We put this under the guise of “caring for someone” or “loving that person”. Some of us even make excuses for situations or events that the loved one finds them self and then we step in and rescue that person. We pay for their debts, we bail them out of jail, we offer them a place to live, look for work for them, and we go out of our way all because we love them. Sometimes this help is asked for, sometimes it isn’t.
Children and adults alike readily give responsibility away through blaming or nominating someone else responsible for the events, misfortunes and even positive moments in their lives. We hand our power over to another easily. We give our responsibility to others without conscious thought of the effect this has on our own ability to live harmoniously, to live with strength and to live with courage.
Taking responsibility really does take courage. It means admitting that we cannot help others. It means admitting that we could be wrong, a failure, not capable or that we are lonely and need others to validate our own existence. Taking responsibility for ourselves takes strength because sometimes it means saying no to those that we love and ask them to step up and take responsibility for themselves even if means watching them fail or temporarily losing their love. Taking responsibility might require us to stand alone and be comfortable with that. It takes strength and courage to do that.
When we start taking responsibility for our own actions and we learn to lead by example we start to experience life differently. We start to feel interesting sensations within us. Taking responsibility starts to give us power. Notice I didn’t say empowerment. Embracing responsibility for self attracts the power we lack by handing over our responsibility to others, or taking on the responsibility for others. Taking responsibility can have consequences of a negative nature but the reward of embracing it will soon become evident in many forms.
Taking responsibility is a powerful experience. We begin to learn self-mastery. We discover a sense of control over ourselves, self-discipline, and will power. We develop determination that serves us well in difficult times. It teaches us the ability to endure.
Your relationship with others will even strengthen. As they notice your waning interest in “interfering” with their life through taking on their responsibilities, they will seek out your company. As people start to see your willingness and desire to accept responsibility for your own life, they may start to accept responsibility for their own.
Responsibility does take courage. It does mean you have to face truths. But the rewards can have significant flow on effects. Start to accept responsibility for your own choices, actions, decisions and emotions today. It might not be easy but with courage you will feel positive effects.
Yoga and Oriental Therapies can assist as we learn self-responsibility. Talk to me about how I might be able to help you endure what needs to be overcome as you embrace self-responsibility.
It is interesting that we love taking responsibility for everyone else’s life, for immaterial items and even for situations which really have nothing to do with us. Children are willing to wear the emotional responsibility of decisions their parents made. Some adults, not all unconsciously and sometimes consciously push their responsibilities onto their children.
I have learned that people happily without thought or consequence take it upon themselves to accept responsibility for another person without accepting responsibility for them self. We put this under the guise of “caring for someone” or “loving that person”. Some of us even make excuses for situations or events that the loved one finds them self and then we step in and rescue that person. We pay for their debts, we bail them out of jail, we offer them a place to live, look for work for them, and we go out of our way all because we love them. Sometimes this help is asked for, sometimes it isn’t.
Children and adults alike readily give responsibility away through blaming or nominating someone else responsible for the events, misfortunes and even positive moments in their lives. We hand our power over to another easily. We give our responsibility to others without conscious thought of the effect this has on our own ability to live harmoniously, to live with strength and to live with courage.
Taking responsibility really does take courage. It means admitting that we cannot help others. It means admitting that we could be wrong, a failure, not capable or that we are lonely and need others to validate our own existence. Taking responsibility for ourselves takes strength because sometimes it means saying no to those that we love and ask them to step up and take responsibility for themselves even if means watching them fail or temporarily losing their love. Taking responsibility might require us to stand alone and be comfortable with that. It takes strength and courage to do that.
When we start taking responsibility for our own actions and we learn to lead by example we start to experience life differently. We start to feel interesting sensations within us. Taking responsibility starts to give us power. Notice I didn’t say empowerment. Embracing responsibility for self attracts the power we lack by handing over our responsibility to others, or taking on the responsibility for others. Taking responsibility can have consequences of a negative nature but the reward of embracing it will soon become evident in many forms.
Taking responsibility is a powerful experience. We begin to learn self-mastery. We discover a sense of control over ourselves, self-discipline, and will power. We develop determination that serves us well in difficult times. It teaches us the ability to endure.
Your relationship with others will even strengthen. As they notice your waning interest in “interfering” with their life through taking on their responsibilities, they will seek out your company. As people start to see your willingness and desire to accept responsibility for your own life, they may start to accept responsibility for their own.
Responsibility does take courage. It does mean you have to face truths. But the rewards can have significant flow on effects. Start to accept responsibility for your own choices, actions, decisions and emotions today. It might not be easy but with courage you will feel positive effects.
Yoga and Oriental Therapies can assist as we learn self-responsibility. Talk to me about how I might be able to help you endure what needs to be overcome as you embrace self-responsibility.
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