Do you feel it is barren and empty or a place of great power?
Recently I was completing an application for a course and one of the questions was how do you feel about your womb?
My automatic answer went something like this "she (as in my womb) is pretty cool. We have had a love-hate relationship but I now respect and honour her".
As this was an almost unconscious answer I decided to reflect a little and decide when, how and why I came to this point. I mean there have been times when I felt her emptiness and had movements of feeling like a failure as a woman! These have been times of feeling barren. But then when I am connected I have such a great sense of power that I understand why a patriarchal system came about - why wouldn't any man feel threatened when a woman stands in her power. We accomplish such greatness. We feel with depth, we action with ferocity yet we have the power of such motherly care. Yes man may well be fearful of a woman standing in her power.
Yet I feel that man should not fear woman just as I shouldn't fear the power of my womb! Harmony of the sexes is as important as a woman living in harmony with her womb. There is a balance to everything including the relationship we can have with our womb.
I am sure that even those among you who have had children will have your stories of womb trauma just as those amongst us who have not carried a child for 9 months. It is the trauma or stories that we attach ourselves too which form the fear and the ‘hate’ aspect of our relationship with our womb.
What makes up the love aspect? I can speculate that the miracle of life that can and does grow within us, even if we chose not to have a baby or cannot by reasons out of our control get pregnant and carry a baby to term. The fact that each month we have the power to release physically from our body in the form of menstrual blood is another reason we should love our womb. Learning to let go and experience change on a regular reoccurring process is really a blessing. It has only taken me a decade to realise this and every now and again I can be forgiven for forgetting.
As I come to a greater understanding of my own power I move to a greater sense of loving my womb. Despite our differences I can honestly say I respect her.
I have come to this point of respect and honour through years of meditation, yoga and listening to her cycle. I have observed the interactions with nature, the moon and the seasons. I have participated in ritual and honoured her flow through her monthly flow, infertility, pregnancy and miscarriage. But I confess it's only in the last few years I have learned to respect her power. I can probably pinpoint the exact moment my womb answered in response and gave me a great gift, but that story is another entry.
Right now I want to share with you my tips for coming to that place of understanding your womb:
1) observe the dance she and your body have, including the hormonal and emotional response
2) observe the dance with nature, the moon and the seasons
3) become involved in the ritual (my moon journal touches on some ways you can do that)
4) fake it till you make with her...love her regardless of the times she comes when you least want her or the times she doesn't nurture the life you so badly wanted to grow inside you
5) find a knowing that she is powerful deep within you. Harmonise with the depth of the cavernous formation she is.
6) honour her in a healthy manner, learn about the products you use, the food you eat at different parts of the menstrual cycle, move according to the cycle, relax and meditate more. Adopt a self care regime that includes your relationship with your womb.
This is just the entrance of the depth of your womb, the tip of the ice berg, the beginning of a wonderful relationship.
If you want more information PM me. I love this topic and will be forever learning about the depth of my womb and always happy to share.